who we end up with
North Americans spend eighteen to twenty-four years raising children. But what if, when we’re done, that’s often what we end up with? You know...children. Adult children to be sure, but adults who are painfully under-prepared for the real world.
Most of us nurturers feel predictably unhappy that things aren’t working out the way we hoped. We’ve come to believe that navigating the real world requires skilled, mature adults. And, God help us, we look around and that’s not who we’re raising.
And so we’re sad, a lot of us. We hate to see kids get off on the wrong foot. They are after all our children, one way or another.
The question is: What are we doing about it?
from Raising Adults by Jim Hancock